Most people imagine their first deeply personal experience as something special—awkward, maybe, but memorable in a gentle way. For me, it was different. What should have been private and meaningful turned into a frightening situation that sent me to the hospital. The shock of that night still lingers—not just because of the physical pain, but because of what caused it: a lack of education, communication, and preparation. My experience could have been prevented, and I’m sharing it so others don’t have to learn the hard way.
I had always been told that these things “come naturally,” that I would “figure it out.” But when the moment arrived, I realized how dangerous ignorance can be. What started as nervous excitement quickly became confusion and panic. Within minutes, something felt wrong. I remember the fear in my friend’s eyes as I struggled, the rising sense that things weren’t as they should be.
That night ended in the emergency room—bright lights, sterile walls, nurses moving quickly, and a doctor asking questions I didn’t know how to answer. My body was hurting, but my mind was worse off—numb, embarrassed, and scared. Medical staff explained that my injuries were severe but treatable. I had torn tissue that required care. When I asked how it could happen, the doctor gently said, “This is more common than people think, especially when there’s no preparation or understanding.”
The truth hit me hard. I wasn’t careless or reckless. I was unprepared because no one had properly taught me.
Continue reading on the next page
